Mother-in-Law’s Email to Bride Goes Viral: Would you want her?

Here at OSM we pride ourselves on bringing you all the latest developments in the tech and social media word but occasionally we like to bring you news on viral videos, or social media blunders. Today we have news of an email that a prospective mother-in-law sent to her son’s future bride and we’re asking, would you like a mother-in-law like this?

Now although we might feel there’s a slightly humorous side to the email, such as the scorn of the future mother-in-law, we somehow doubt that that’s how the prospective bride is feeling, nor any of the major players in this story. The email was sent to Heidi Withers, 29, of London by Carolyn Bourne, 60, the mother of her fiancé Freddie Bourne, 29. No doubt Ms Withers was rather shocked at the content of the email and she then forwarded it to some close friends who probably just as shocked, forwarded it to more. Pretty soon the email had gone viral and it may be one of those occasions when perhaps Mrs Bourne will be wishing she’d had a quiet word in Ms Withers ear instead of sending an email.

According to Adam Sherwin of The Independent, Mrs Bourne of Devon sent the email after her son and fiancé visited the family home and the tone of the email makes it quite clear that she doesn’t approve of her son’s choice of bride-to-be. Mrs Bourne started her email by saying “It is high time someone explained to you about good manners. Yours are obvious by their absence and I feel sorry for you.” She then went on to detail various examples of Ms Withers apparent bad manners on the visit, saying that her behavior was “staggering in its uncouthness and lack of grace” and going on to give guidelines for future behavior. Mrs Bourne also slightly slurred the parents of Ms Withers by saying she understood they would not be able to contribute much to the wedding costs but that maybe they should have considered saving towards the future wedding expenses for their daughters over the years.

This sounds like a pretty sad way to start a prospective family union and we can only wonder if all the parties involved will be able to get past this, especially as the email is now in the public domain and particularly as Ms Bourne also said in the email that she pitied her son, adding, “One could be accused of thinking that Heidi Withers must be patting herself on the back for having caught a most eligible young man.” Earlier in the email she had also said, “Unfortunately for Freddie, he has fallen in love with you.” One wonders if this has gone too far to be fixed! You can see extracts from the email at the Independent link above.

Meanwhile The Telegraph also reports on this and notes that Mrs Bourne even said that the family dog had been left traumatized by the visit. Her son Freddie, who runs an online cycle shop, said, “Obviously this has been discussed within the family but we are not commenting other than that,” and refused to say whether the wedding was still on. Mrs Bourne also refused to comment but her husband said, “We are aware of what is being said. I know it is very boring, very repetitive and very dull but we will not be making any comment and neither will my wife.” Ms Withers, along with her parents have also made no comment and there was apparently “no sign” of Ms Withers at the flat she lives at with Freddie Bourne.

Obviously we weren’t there to see the so-called “vulgar” behavior of Ms Withers on the visit to her fiance’s parents home but we would hope that any prospective mother-in-law’s out there thinking of sending a similar missive might think again about a more appropriate way to go about things. We’d like to hear your thoughts on this. How would you fancy Mrs Bourne as a mother-in-law? Let us have your comments